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How to have a great 2022

Set a theme, not a resolution



Using a theme for the year ahead has been life-changing for me. Even more life-changing than Marie Kondo's tidying advice and that's saying something.


It started for me about 13 years or so ago. I smashed open a Terramundi money pot my friend had given me the year before - the first gift I've ever been invited to destroy. She told me it was tradition to smash it at New Year and, and so that's what I did. What I found in it, was much more valuable than the money I’d deposited.


'Today, honesty shall release you and you shall be unburdened'


In it was a little piece of paper with a saying on it – a bit like a fortune cookie - it said: ‘Today, honesty shall release you and you shall be unburdened’. This little piece of paper felt like a direct messenger sent – though I’m not sure from where - to snap me out my malaise and slap me about a bit. In ways I still can't fully explain, it was exactly what I needed to hear.


I put that saying on my bathroom mirror and vowed to let it guide me throughout the year. It definitely helped, at the very least to be more honest with myself.


The following year I decided I wanted to set my own theme for the year ahead and convinced some of my friends to take part in a very crude and experimental version of what has now become my annual 'Theme for the year creative writing workshop’.


Themes that followed - mine and others - included songs, colours, animals, sayings, words and feelings. A theme can be anything that symbolises what you want.


'New'


My most effective and life changing theme was simply the word ‘new.’ I was so fed up of my life at that time, I felt like I was in my very own Groundhog Day which, ironically, I loved to watch over and over again. I needed help! It wasn't just my viewing materials that were on repeat, so to was the music I listened to, the things I did and thought and more besides. It reminds me on reflection of that great joke about the man who complains about his sandwiches being the same every day. When his mate asks him to ask his wife to make something else, he says "Oh, I make them myself." I knew I was keeping myself stuck, and just wanted something new, that’s all I knew but I was too jaded to be able to imagine what that might be.


So ‘new’ became my theme and it changed everything. I discovered a whole load of new music, new films, I thought new thoughts (or at least stopped thinking old ones as much,) I read more, wrote more, tried new routes to get from A to B, and much more. It wasn’t an effort and I didn’t have a great plan with tick boxes and milestones.


I simply asked myself in the moment, ‘is this new?’ If it was — it was in, if it wasn’t - it was out. One thing that went was Christmas. It was a bit strange at first, but stepping out of Christmas that year was extremely liberating. The theme of 'new' – which I still check in with from time to time - moved me forward in so many ways and my life was, and is, better because of it. Happily, Christmas is back in my life, but I don't regret stepping away from it for a couple of years.


Themes vs Goals


A theme is a guide, something to use to steer your ship. It brings you into the moment and influences each decision you make, no matter how big or small. If I'd had a goal to listen to new music, I may have done it for a few weeks, months even, but without the hook, I would have probably slipped back into my old Groundhog ways.


Unlike goals and resolutions, you can’t fail with a theme. Goals are great if you know exactly what you want and when you want it. A theme allows you to not know exactly what the life you want looks like. You can just know you want some things to be different and let them come to you in any number of ways. For me at least, this takes off the pressure and allows for possibilities I may have not imagined. I can chase after ‘x’ only to find that it doesn’t deliver what I was hoping, and we know that in a lot of cases, this is exactly what happens. What I can do, is focus on how I want to feel and a theme is great for capturing that.


You can change it too, without feeling you’ve not achieved something, and no-one can tell you off. You can review/reset as many times as you please. New Year is a great time to do this kind of self-reflection because we’re in a ‘fresh start’ frame of mind, but New Year’s Day is just another day. You can change your theme at 3.30pm on a Wednesday in March when no-one's looking, as long as it feels right.


Finding your theme


If you like to write, use writing to explore. If you like to talk, then find someone who wants to join in and talk it through together. I personally think a combination of both is the best way to do it. But then I would say that, creative group journaling (which is at the heart of all that I do) is my answer to almost everything.


However you go about it, start by looking back over the past year and review what’s worked/not worked, what you’ve enjoyed/didn’t enjoy etc. Then look ahead to explore what you want to be different – if anything – and then find a way to capture the essence of that.


If you want something you don’t have, a camper van, a house, a partner, think about what it is those things will give you, what’s underneath them? A feeling of freedom, security, of being settled, being loved? If you focus on the feeling you want, then it leaves the door open to things other than the thing you’ve attached it to.


Maybe it's the 'how.' How you show up in the world and how the world shows up for you, which of course is the same thing. It might be that you want things a little slower, faster, easier, more fun, you get the idea.


Or you may just want more of something, like being in nature, knowing already that it gives you peace, perspective, nourishment. An image maybe just the thing, an animal, a tree, a mountain. You could even draw/paint your own image, a theme doesn't have to be words.


Landing on a theme is easy to identify, because you will feel it. Some people have reported back to me saying they thought they’d hit upon their theme and then a week or so later, something came to them that – in some cases – made them feel quite emotional. It doesn’t have to make sense to anyone else but you, and often doesn’t. But it anchors you and connects with you and that’s what’s most important.


So, whilst I generally try not to give advice (apart from write, write, and write some more,) I would encourage you to have a think about what you want your year to be like, what feeling or tone do you want it to have. Have fun with it!

If you fancy creating your own theme for 2022 and would like to do it with other people (I promise, it’s fun,) I’m running my ‘Theme for the year - Write for your Life special' workshop and takes place on two separate dates. January 8th and January 15th.


You can of course choose to not engage with any intention setting, looking ahead, and that's great too. It's all an invitation. Whatever you choose to do with your New Year, I hope it's a wonderful, healthy and happy one.


For more information go to cpsdayoff.com, if you'd like to know more about *ADD LINK FOR BLOG** Creative group journaling, click here or drop me an email at cpsdayoff@gmail.com.


Photo by Yuyeung Lau on Unsplash


Revised version - originally published, 29 December 2020 'Liberate yourself with a theme for 2021'

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